Head Out of Sand

My parents had a couple of great sayings that really help me out to this day. Being disabled you can get caught up in yourself to the exclusion of all else. You can live in your own little world. You can also fall into the trap of feeling sorry for yourself.

Head out of Sand Podcast
I find the real world can be very exhausting and physically painful. Its very easy to want to go somewhere else to disassociate.

My parents would say. “Get OUT of your little world!!” Its easy to fall into distractions and live your life entirely in fantasy. To live in your own illusions to the point of not living your life. I know a lot of people use distractions to manage the pain in their own life. I’ve done it many times when my life was unhappy. I’d loose myself in my fantasy world.

The other problem I have with the risk of loosing myself in distractions is I do make up my own little world. I see in memory maps and context I use so many mental tricks to adapt and function that there is a real danger of me ending up in a fantasy world of my own making instead of reality. I have many checks and balances to make sure it doesn’t happen but occasionally I’ll find myself fooling myself.

The ultimate risk with using distractions to manage the pain and fatigue of a disability or a traumatic issue is, not living your life.

The other thing my parents were really good about was not letting me get stuck in victim thinking. They wouldn’t let me feel sorry for myself and they wouldn’t rescue me. They made me figure it out on my own. They would support me if I couldn’t find a solution but ultimately it was my problem to solve.

I think its how I developed my tenacity which ultimately is one of my biggest advantages its the drive to overcome to make it work to make it happen.

My parents would say “Quit feeling sorry for Yourself!!!” Go and figure it out. Get up make it work. I understand it hurts but the hurt isn’t going to go away. The hurt is going to likely get worse with higher demands on you and your vision. You have to learn how to live with it and manage it.

Not rescuing me allowed me to become an integrated successful inspiring part of society. Well most of the time. Alright some of the time.

Posted in: Everything Else, Living

About the Author:

Kyle has ocular albinism and has been legally blind since birth. Kyle leads a very active live and is besides his professional career involved in many projects for persons who are different.

Post a Comment