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Divorce

After being through a divorce I’d recommend to anyone in marriage use divorce as an absolute tool of last resort.    I was raised Roman Catholic and divorce was strictly taboo.   My parents are the only ones still married to the original spouse version in both of their families.     It took me years to make a final decision, my decision being delayed by risk of losing access to my children and the stupid notion that I couldn’t afford it.   I also wanted to do the due, due diligence, to make sure that I was doing the right thing.    As I’ve discussed in other posts it is unhealthy to be in a bad relationship.  Ultimately my decision came from the potential of totally loosing myself and what I stood for.

Divorce Podcast
The impacts of divorce are huge: Spiritual, Family, Sexual, Archive, Experiences, Lifestyle, Logistics, Legal, Siblings, Education, Children, Parents, Extended Families, Friends, Money, Retirement, and Shared communities, etc., and etc..   You get the picture it’s a big deal
So how does this impact disability.   Well it really doesn’t.   Disabled people get married and get divorced.  They have families and raise their kids and worry about the usual, death and taxes.
Ultimately here is my advice.   Get a good lawyer.   It’s rare you can do the Big D without one or a shared lawyer.   If you can “Great”, otherwise get a lawyer.   Be patient it’s going to take a year or a bit more.   If you try relationships during a divorce realize that while you’re in the depths of a divorce it’s not likely the relationship will work out long term.   Again if it does “Great”.    Love your kids.   Talk nicely about your spouse in front of your kids.    Get a counsellor.  Finally try and get consideration for your extra costs of living with your disability.  Rebuild your life and get on with it.

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