Relationship Comandments

I thought I wouldn’t be writing about this again but apparently my readers are interested. Here are a list of relationship commandments for us disabled and blind people.

• Don’t get into a relationship because you think you’ll never find anyone else, Don’t settle.
• Don’t get into a relationship or stay in a relationship because you don’t think anyone would want you. It’s not true. There are always opportunities.
• Don’t let someone tell you you have to settle because your disabled, or not good enough or won’t have the opportunities. Again crap.
• Don’t let anyone tell you that you will not be loved or lovable.   Its not true
•  Don’t feel bad about taking advantage of a situation to have sex. Everyone does it. Do it have some fun. Remember consenting adults is all good.
• Don’t burn a bridge unless its unhealthy then nuke the sucker.
• Don’t stay in a relationship because you don’t think you shouldn’t get divorced, just do it.
• Don’t think that you can change anyone or be something that your not, you don’t don’t even try.
• Don’t get involved with people who’s self esteem is  built on taking care of you.   If the only way they can feel good is taking care of you you are doomed.
  There is nothing you can do to make these people happy nothing again run run far away.
• Don’t get stuck with someone who is: so lonely or hates themselves, so bad or has not self esteem. They will tear you down to build themselves up.

My personal experience has been people who are lonely and want you to fill that hole will do anything to make sure you don’t get away.  If you even appear unhappy they will control and direct and manipulate to keep you.   They will tear you down and make you nothing.  They will take away your independence your adaptations. They will make you totally dependent on them so you can’t get away.    I’ve encountered a number of people like this in my life where no matter what you do they are unhappy about it.   Its all about control and keeping you close.  Run and Run far away.

• Do be friendly and open to new connections we need the support systems.
• Do make lots of friends we need them too.
• Do get into a relationship because you care for the person are great friends and your falling in love with them. Being passionately connected helps too.
• Do love yourself.
• Do believe that we are here for a reason we are, and its not to be the freak at the circus.
• Do care if you or your partner are unhappy if your not happy fix it or end it.
• Do be yourself. Your the best you you can be.
• Do take care of yourself.
• Do change if your not happy with how things are going
• Do live well

Just Do It….