I’m Not Doing This to Hurt You

There was an article on CNN today about transgender issues. The person in the picture was holding up a sign that stated “I’m Not Doing This to Hurt You”. I have often in my life felt this way. Especially in my family of origin but also with others. I’m not this way I didn’t chose my destiny. Maybe in some context I did but consciously I didn’t choose to be a blind person. I’ve often felt that parents siblings significant others and on and on get hurt because of my blindness. Hurt is a broad big word what does that mean. I think it means something different for everyone. For my parents perhaps what do we do?, a sibling you get all the attention, a friend or significant other I feel bad you can’t do it., or I can’t fix you, or I don’t know how to help you. You get the picture.

I am not blind or disabled or old or anything to hurt anyone else. I have no intent. I struggle to be the best me I can be. Work play live contribute just like anyone else.

I don’t owe you an apology I’m not apologizing because I exist and my existence threatens or hurts you. You don’t need to feel bad because of me just don’t do it. I am what I am and I have to live with it. Take a look in the mirror at what and who you are. Maybe you need to look closer. My new favorite blind joke is “God made me blind because I’m ugly, But I don’t know what she did to the rest of you”.

Don’t use me as your crutch. Look a little closer to home and let me live.

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Kyle Bergum

About the Author:

Kyle has ocular albinism and has been legally blind since birth. Kyle leads a very active live and is besides his professional career involved in many projects for persons who are different.

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