Archive for April, 2013

Dating a Disabled Person

Dating a Disabled Person

I never thought I’d have to spend so much time writing about dating. My experiences are well documented in other parts of the blog. I’m happy with some of the blog posts and unhappy with others, regardless there are many lessons learned that I will attempt to share. If you are a disabled person reading […]

Propagation

Propagation

My views on parenting have matured recently especially since my children have fired me. Being fired has given me impetus to finally come to terms with some issues what have haunted me There are lot of barriers to being a good parent when your disabled. The logistics you have for managing your disability and children […]

Tenure

Tenure

I’m doing some writing for a group that focuses on youth employment. I knew it was bad out there with the economy but this group, young people, are getting hit particularly hard. A bit of hope is that the information technology “IT” industry is needing people. Not in traditional IT roles, not hidden away in […]

Being Content

Being Content

I started my journey to contentment with a counsellor. The counsellor and I were together for a long time and I miss her desperately. I long for this companion from time to time and her counsel all the time. Thank you to this person for giving me the tools to live, for that gift for […]

Forgiveness

Forgiveness

Upon returning to Calgary I joined the “Calgary Chamber of Commerce” to support my reintroduction to the city and networking. Honestly as well its a clean safe place to go where the bathrooms don’t smell the people are friendly and the coffee doesn’t suck. The chamber runs some networking sessions for those of us doing […]

Finding Your Voice

Finding Your Voice

  I received an email yesterday from an old friend of mine. This friend is very important to me as they have waled with me through many valleys of death. They have shown me compassion and hope when there was no on e else there. Even took me for a burger in a red convertible […]

Going to the Slaughter House

Going to the Slaughter House

In life there are many things we don’t want to do. Would avoid if we could, postpone as long as we can. I’ve added to my blindness a debilitating back problem. In my travels I ripped a hole in one of my disks in my spin. It hurts a lot and two to three times […]

My Bad Blind Self

My Bad Blind Self

  I started this blog over two years ago, where has the time gone? But it was all about me, me and my bad self and my experience with blindness. I’ve grown as I’ve written both as a person, a disabled person a writer and a commentator on the human condition. I like to think […]

Disability Defined

Disability Defined

My disability has added a second disability, my back. I have a ruptured disk for whatever reason we, the doctors and I, have no clue what happened. The theory is that a cycling accident I had a number of years ago was the catalyst event. It really doesn’t matter, my back condition is painful, debilitatingly […]

Pace

Pace

It’s a lesson I’ve had to focus on for my whole life, slow down, be patient. I’ve laughed at and mocked statements like you need to slow down to go faster. With age, millage and experience I can now look back and see that indeed if I’d stopped, spent more time learning, more time planning, […]

Managing Your Disability

Managing Your Disability

Disability requires constant diligence, what’s working what’s not working, what’s changed, what can I do to manage my disability differently. It’s a discipline of constant diligence that will see you through. None of Us Wants be a Burden We all don’t want to be a burden on others. Having others take care of our basic […]

Throw Back

Throw Back

Recently I had the opportunity to work at a client who’s focus is the eradication of blindness. I had some misgivings going into the organization, “the blind man at the blind organization”. Initially the gig was a good fit the people were excellent the mission for the organization seemed sound and I had fun for […]

Assaulted on Calgary Transit 301

Assaulted on Calgary Transit 301

I live in the very far north part of Calgary, it takes me two buses to get from my home to work in downtown Calgary. The shuttle bus I use is bad enough the Route 420 is served generally only once an hour and the size of the bus used on the route variable on […]

Blind Man Fighting

Blind Man Fighting

To steal a line from Peter Gabriel “I was taught to fight, taught to win”. My parents would tell me when I was growing up that they are raising me differently then they did my sister. They were teaching me to fight for myself. Being disabled is tough it can be a “fight”. Recently as […]

Eureka

Eureka

I finally know why people don’t think I’m blind. I ran into a woman on the street yesterday who just kept looking at me in shock. She said that she had a friend who is blind and she says to me “you’re not blind”. I was raised to appear not blind for 40 years I […]

Prejudice

Prejudice

The remarks, “You are amazing!”, “You are inspiring” are a polite reminder of how brave I am to leave my house. I was on course last week and my eye’s, my mind, my heart was opened to some tragic truths. I am of Metis decent. Thankfully, and I say that with a lack of pride, […]

Thank you Steve Jobs & Apple

Thank you Steve Jobs & Apple

Sir Steve, thank you for the wonderful products, I love the approach Apple is taking with accessibility. I love that accessibility is there when I want it and I can put it away when I don’t need it. Dynamic contextual based accessibility enables me so much more than the typical all or nothing approach. I […]

Predetermined

Predetermined

I had a perspective offered to me the other day. Race has no determining, explaining factor on a persons: intelligence, competence, behaviour, or personal power. The line from an song I learned in catechism “Red and Yellow, Black and White”, “Jesus loves the little children of the world”. One could argue for more colours or […]

Health Care Coverage

Health Care Coverage

    When I left Canada a number of years ago it was straight forward to get medical and dental coverage. If you were working for an employer that provided health care coverage as part of an employment package you were set. Depending on the plan you would get vision care coverage, prescription drug coverage, […]

Sir John

Sir John

I have to recommend highly “Cora’s” in Bow Valley Square in Calgary. John is the front man for the place and took awesome care of me. I had a meeting this morning with a fellow I’ve never met before. John seen me standing outside the restaurant invited me in and helped me find my meeting. […]

Least Significant Rights

Least Significant Rights

  I want to introduce a concept to you, least significant rights, is used in computer file system security. A user uses a computer and the computer determines if you have access to a file on the computer by looking at the users access to: the computer disk, the folder on the disk, the sub […]

Beware, Small Minded Person

Beware, Small Minded Person

There are people out there who feel badly about themselves to the point they use others, they hurt others, to feel better about themselves. These are the people in a “culture” who are convinced that greatness cannot come from anywhere but within the culture. They are closed to the potential of others instead they judge, […]

Culture Defined

Culture Defined

I took a course that offered a model of culture that I’ve latched onto. I am a visual thinker and models help me to make sense of things and to move forward my thinking on a subject. I’ve been trying to write about a number of topics for a couple of years and now with […]

Identity

Identity

Recently I published an article defining culture, I want to build on that article as the definition of culture has given me language to discuss identity. I have been drafting an article on identity for as long as this blog has been in existence. All of my life Spock from the “Star Trek” franchise has […]

Intolerance for Intolerance

Intolerance for Intolerance

I don’t have to look far to recognize the things that infuriate me about intolerance; I just have to look in the mirror. I have a total intolerance for intolerance, and I’ve been brutal about it. Popeye has been an inspiration for most of my life, well a sound byte of Popeye’s has been an […]

Crossing the Street

Crossing the Street

  Crossing the street is serious business. I have a rigor a discipline that keeps me safe and keeps me alive. Sighted people are so carefree so careless, jaywalking, cutting corners, crossing against the signal. I don’t have that luxury, my envelope of certainty isn’t that big. My rule of thumb is never trust a […]

Coke Bottle Bottoms

Coke Bottle Bottoms

  WARNING, this content may be misconstrued by some readers.  The implication being I can see more than I can actually see.    The ability to compose a picture has no relationship to how much of the content of the picture can be seen.     Photography is an important technical accommodation used to give […]

Enough is Enough

Enough is Enough

  When do you stop advocating and just walk away.    How stupid can people be?   Free advice never ask questions you don’t want answers for.  People will amaze you both positively and negatively.   God has a mischievous sense of humor so never ask how can this get any worse.  God will show you.   […]

Anything You Can Do, I Can Do It Better :-)

Anything You Can Do, I Can Do It Better :-)

  I regularly receive the comment, “I didn’t know you were blind!” I am what they call “high functioning”, which has always pissed me off. High functioning is a fancy way of saying I’m not blind, or I’m not blind enough. Lets stick purely with the facts, I am blind; yes I still have some […]

Collage / College

Collage / College

College / Collage After 46 years I am proud to say that today I learned how to spell the word College correctly. No longer are my colleges collages of experiences but now colleges of learning. Letters remain a mystery to me no matter how big they are some of them are really hard to see. […]

Priority Seating

Priority Seating

  As you’ve read and heard me bitching and moaning its been hard for me coming back to Canada from the United State, the US is really the world leader in disability awareness. I’ve noticed that my experience personally varies significantly geographically with my more positive experiences happening in Toronto, Edmonton, and Vancouver and my […]

Snowshoeing

Snowshoeing

  I’ve taken up snowshoeing. Its hard to get the exercise you need when you don’t drive. The gym is a logistical nightmare unless it is very close to where you work or you live. Making a trip to the gym adds significantly to your trip times if the gym is out of the way, […]

Whats In a Doll?

Whats In a Doll?

  What wisdom can a toy doll impart on us? We either make our toys represent ourselves, making our toy look like us, or our toy becomes our confidant or our best friend. In either case we have the opportunity to project ourselves and reflect on our life through play. Play is a necessary for […]

Living With Pain

Living With Pain

I’m not convinced that there is any “disability” be it sensory, mobility, or cognitive that doesn’t come with some side effects. Accommodating for a disability is very hard on the mind & body. Besides the fact that most disabilities don’t come without some spice, there are generally some other issues associated with the disability. Having […]

Dating a Sighted Person

Dating a Sighted Person

I’m still surprised at how many people find the blog by looking for relationship advice. Should I date a blind person, what can I expect from being in the relationship with a blind person. Lets turn it around for a moment and consider it from my perspective. What can I, being blind, expect from being […]

Biggest Looser

Biggest Looser

  Who are your hero’s? Who were the people or persona’s that you looked up to when you were growing up? Its hard right now for everyone. Standards of living are changing, salaries are under pressure, taxes are going up, food costs more. Growing up in Canada I was enthralled with hockey loved it breathed […]